How to Get Along With Your Boss
Ten Tips to Manage Up
for an Effective Boss Relationship
At one point or another in your career, you
will report to a manager, the person you fondly - or not - call boss. The
relationships that you create and manage, with both your immediate boss, and
other company employees, are critical for your work success and career
progress.
And, face it, whether you like it or not,
you're in charge of your relationship with your boss. No one will ever share as
much concern as you do that the quality of the relationship helps you achieve
your goals. At the same time, your boss has information that you need to
succeed. He can't do his job or accomplish his goals without your help.
So, your manager shares a critical
interdependence with you. If you don't accomplish your work, your manager will
never shine for his or her overall responsibilities. You won't progress without
the information, perspective, experience, and support of your manager.
Despite
knowing this, managers do come in every size and with all possible levels of
skill and effectiveness. Some managers are just plain bad
bosses; others are unaware
of what you need from them. Managing up is challenging, but
ultimately, worth your time.
How to Develop an
Effective Relationship With Your Boss
These
steps will help you develop a positive, ongoing, supportive relationship with
your boss - a relationship that serves you well, your manager well, and, as a
consequence, your organization well.
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The first step in managing up is to develop a positive relationship with your boss.Relationships are based on
trust. Do what you say you'll do. Keep timeline commitments. Never
blind side your manager with surprises that you could have predicted or
prevented. Keep her informed about your projects and interactions with the rest
of the organization.
Tell the boss when you've made an error or one of your reporting staff has made a mistake. Cover-ups don't contribute to an effective relationship. Lies or efforts to mislead always result in further stress for you as you worry about getting "caught" or somehow slipping up in the consistency of your story. Communicate daily or weekly to build the relationship.
Get to know your manager as a person - she is one, after all. She shares the human experience, just as you do, with all of its joys and sorrows.
Tell the boss when you've made an error or one of your reporting staff has made a mistake. Cover-ups don't contribute to an effective relationship. Lies or efforts to mislead always result in further stress for you as you worry about getting "caught" or somehow slipping up in the consistency of your story. Communicate daily or weekly to build the relationship.
Get to know your manager as a person - she is one, after all. She shares the human experience, just as you do, with all of its joys and sorrows.
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Recognize that success at work is not all about you; put your boss's needs at the center of your
universe. Identify your boss's
areas of weakness or greatest challenges and ask what you can do to help. What
are your boss's biggest worries; how can your contribution mitigate these
concerns? Understand your boss's goals and priorities. Place emphasis in your
work to match her priorities. Think in terms of the overall success of your
department and company, not just about your more narrow world at work.
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Look for and focus on the "best" parts of your boss; just about every boss has both good points
and bad. When you're negative about your boss, the tendency is to focus on his
worst traits and failings. This is neither positive for your work happiness nor
your prospects for success in your organization. Instead, compliment your boss
on something he does well. Provide positive recognition for contributions to
your success. Make your boss feel valued. Isn't this what you want from him for
you?
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Your boss is unlikely to change; she can choose to change, but
the person who shows up to work every day has taken years and years of effort
on her part to create. And, who your boss is has worked for her in the past and
reinforced her actions and beliefs. Instead of trying to change your boss, focus instead, on trying to understand your
boss's work style.
Identify what she values in an employee. Does she like frequent communication, autonomous employees, requests in writing in advance of meeting, or informal conversation as you pass in the hallway. Your boss's preferences are important and the better you understand them, the better you will work with her.
Identify what she values in an employee. Does she like frequent communication, autonomous employees, requests in writing in advance of meeting, or informal conversation as you pass in the hallway. Your boss's preferences are important and the better you understand them, the better you will work with her.
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Learning how to read your boss's moods and reactions is also a helpful approach to communicate more
effectively with him. There are times when you don't want to introduce new
ideas; if he is preoccupied with making this month's numbers, your idea for a
six month improvement may not be timely. Problems at home or a relative in
failing health affect each of your workplace behaviors and openness to an
improvement discussion. Additionally, if your boss regularly reacts in the same
way to similar ideas, explore what he fundamentally likes or dislikes about
your proposals.
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Learn from your boss. Although some days it may not feel like it,
your boss has much to teach you. Appreciate that she was promoted because your organization found aspects of her
work, actions, and/or management style worthwhile. Promotions are usually the result
of effective work and successful contributions. So, ask questions to learn and listen more than you speak to develop an effective relationship with your
boss.
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Ask your boss for feedback. Let the boss play the role of coach and mentor.
Remember that your boss can't read your mind. Enable him to offer you
recognition for your excellent performance. Make sure he knows what you have
accomplished. Create a space in your conversation for him to praise and thank
you.
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Value your boss's time. Try to schedule, at least, a weekly meeting
during which you are prepared with a list of what you need and your questions.
This allows him to accomplish work without regular interruption.
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Tie your work, your requests, and your project direction to your
boss's and the company's overarching goals. When making proposals to your boss, try to
see the larger picture. There are many reasons why your suggestion may not be
adopted: resources, time, goals, and vision. Maintain strict confidentiality.
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In your relationship with your boss you will sometimes disagree and occasionally
experience an emotional reaction. Don't hold grudges. Don't make threats about leaving.
Disagreement is fine; discord is not. Get over it. You need to come to terms
with the fact that your boss has more authority and power than you do. You are
unlikely to always get your way.
